I've got to agree with most everything here. Porn messed up a large number of my relationships in university.
I'm just under 30. When I was a teen, almost everyone around me had broadband (well, DSL). My family had dialup. So no internet porn for me. My father/mother did not have a stash nor did any of my friends. So no VHS porn. Somehow I managed to never watch porn during my secondary school years. I did do a lot of reading though. Alt.sex.stories was nice back then.
At university I got real internet, but still did not watch porn. (Roommates.) I did however start dating. These girls had seen porn. Lots of it, compared to me. It was odd, because they'd ask me to do things I found completely disgusting. (Voyeurism, anal, simulated rape.) The same girls would refuse to do things I thought deeply compassionate. (Oral sex was more appealing to me than straight sex.)
It was not until after school when I got my own place that I finally watched some porn and finally made the connection. All mainstream porn is horrid. At a most basic level it is about one thing and one thing only - giving the viewer something to look at.
The fundamental issue here is that for flesh to be seen, it has to have an unblocked line to the camera. If it is unblocked, no one can be touching it. If no one is touching it, it is being neglected and someone is not having as good a time as they could be. Nothing happens in porn because it feels good, only because it looks "good". You end up with truly ridiculous sex in porn where there is no physical contact between the two parties except at the genitalia. And even that is kept at a minimum! (I could provide specific if requested, but given my literary upbringing they might be a little too detailed and graphic for this forum ;)
It is about as bad as hackers on TV where they are using two keyboards simultaneously while a projector plasters their face with scrolling text. Sure looks impressive, but it just can not work that way.
I'm just under 30. When I was a teen, almost everyone around me had broadband (well, DSL). My family had dialup. So no internet porn for me. My father/mother did not have a stash nor did any of my friends. So no VHS porn. Somehow I managed to never watch porn during my secondary school years. I did do a lot of reading though. Alt.sex.stories was nice back then.
At university I got real internet, but still did not watch porn. (Roommates.) I did however start dating. These girls had seen porn. Lots of it, compared to me. It was odd, because they'd ask me to do things I found completely disgusting. (Voyeurism, anal, simulated rape.) The same girls would refuse to do things I thought deeply compassionate. (Oral sex was more appealing to me than straight sex.)
It was not until after school when I got my own place that I finally watched some porn and finally made the connection. All mainstream porn is horrid. At a most basic level it is about one thing and one thing only - giving the viewer something to look at.
The fundamental issue here is that for flesh to be seen, it has to have an unblocked line to the camera. If it is unblocked, no one can be touching it. If no one is touching it, it is being neglected and someone is not having as good a time as they could be. Nothing happens in porn because it feels good, only because it looks "good". You end up with truly ridiculous sex in porn where there is no physical contact between the two parties except at the genitalia. And even that is kept at a minimum! (I could provide specific if requested, but given my literary upbringing they might be a little too detailed and graphic for this forum ;)
It is about as bad as hackers on TV where they are using two keyboards simultaneously while a projector plasters their face with scrolling text. Sure looks impressive, but it just can not work that way.