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Learning to deal with frustration is probably one of the most important skills one can acquire.


Any tips?


Detach in a good way. Look at a situation from other PoVs. Is the frustration even warranted. A silly example, someone cuts you off in traffic. Some people go ballistic, but to what end? Shrug and move on. Think of it as don't let yourself bike-shed personal events. Focus on what matters.


Acceptance of facts (of situations) and removal of their internal impact - more structurally, replacement of their impact with their acceptance.

Then, constructive perspective there where there is space for action; just stopping wasting energies on it where there is no space for action.


Translation: if things aren't going your way get on with workarounds and damage control / recovery instead of butting your head against a wall.


I'll take your track and reformulate my original:

if things aren't going your way, and you are ruminating and poisoning your blood fruitfullessly remembering the bad events, replace those thoughts with the acceptance that the events are there - stop agonizing uselessly, take the novelties as just a matter of fact. Get out of the thought, get out of the emotion - they can be replaced by a label, "Past. There. What is done is done. Next".

Then, if you can do something about it (to fix the situation), enter the constructive mood of the entrepreneur exploiting the useful fact of being alive to engineer reality. Otherwise, if you cannot do anything about it, bear the consequences but do not let the damage increase through an inadvisable behaviour of possibly letting events impact your mental, emotional states - that would be wasted energy, wasted health, wasted time.


Different perspective, that got a lot easier for me once I started taking ADHD meds (methylphenidate/ritalin in particular for me).


Focus on recognizing the specific thoughts that trigger it. It's much easier to keep in under control before it snowballs.




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