This is probably the single most relatable post linked on Hacker News for me. She gets it. She gets my mind set. I've been in tech for 20 years now (grew up poor, used to clean the tech-workers' cubicles as a kid so my parents could make it on time to their 3rd jobs, immigrant). The other day I was talking with co-workers at lunch, about how my major goal (at 40) was to finally pay off my mortgage ($194K) in the next 5 years. There was a long awkward silence, and lots of confused looks exchanged. Apparently, I must have been and continue to be chronically underpaid.