this actually reminds me of an article i read on nyt some time ago, about poor college students or first gen students in top colleges.
the parents were invited to the school to meet the faculty and the parents who were college educated or those went to the same type of schools understood the song and dance - the mingling with the adminstrative staff, the dean of students, the professors and lecturers - and the parents who were not educated or were part of the lower class didn't know what to do, so they hung out with the cafeteria staff, asked the cafeteria staff to take care of their kids. those were the people their families and relatives knew and understood.
and the first gen students also understood that they belonged to the same social strata as the cafeteria staff, and things like office hours or asking for help from the professors or the TAs were something that they could not possibly be entitled to.
the parents were invited to the school to meet the faculty and the parents who were college educated or those went to the same type of schools understood the song and dance - the mingling with the adminstrative staff, the dean of students, the professors and lecturers - and the parents who were not educated or were part of the lower class didn't know what to do, so they hung out with the cafeteria staff, asked the cafeteria staff to take care of their kids. those were the people their families and relatives knew and understood.
and the first gen students also understood that they belonged to the same social strata as the cafeteria staff, and things like office hours or asking for help from the professors or the TAs were something that they could not possibly be entitled to.